Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me.

Psalm 23:4b

Proverbs 3:11,12 My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline and do not resent His rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, as a father the son he delights in.
 
Proverbs 4:1 Listen my sons, to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain understanding.

Read also 2 Sam 7:14   Hebrews 12:7,ll   Rev 3:19
 
I remember when I was young and stubborn. (Now I am old and stubborn). I wasn't too happy when the switch was applied to my center of learning.  I learned much from those
times of instruction. While at the time, I felt abused and unloved, I had parents that loved me enough to try to keep me on the straight and narrow.
 
Our loving, heavenly Father also cares enough about His children to guide and instruct us. He is willing to chasten us
in ways that don't seem fair. He knows that we have so many
fleshly desires that are difficult to ignore. We see things on a temporal level and have a difficult time waiting for the eternal
benefits that He has promised.
 
The Lord will sometimes allow us to deal with the consequences of our own choices. He grieves when we make those bad decisions but in His deep love for us, He walks with us through those times of learning. He seeks our honest repentence and offers comfort in our times of troubles.
 
The shepherds of old used a rod and a staff as weapons
and as tools of the trade. The staff was used to pull a sheep from a place where they fell. He would hook it around the sheep's neck and pull it to safety. The rod would protect the sheep from wolves and whatever other enemy lurked or attacked.
 
So, too, our Father will use the rod of discipline to bring
us back to Himself. He uses the staff to sometimes drag us back from the places of danger we have fallen into. He does not enjoy those times but rejoices when we gain wisdom and grow in our Christian walk.
 
He is asking us to view His training as a blessing and not
become angry with Him. When the rod and staff show up in your life, search your heart carefully. Seek His face and ask Him where you need to repent. Be honest with God and with yourself. If you don't see sin in your life, He will show you if you honestly seek Him.

After seeking His forgiveness, grant yourself forgiveness. Then move on. Learn from the experience but don't beat yourself up over it.  We are not greater than God. If He forgives, so can we. Our sins are not the greatest He has seen. He has forgiven far greater.